Who Do You Love Most? Why Loving Yourself is Not Selfish | KV Shan

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Who Do You Love Most? Learning to Choose Yourself without Feeling Guilty There is a question most of us answer incorrectly without even realizing it. “Who do you love the most?” We say: My mother. My father. My spouse. My children. My God. Very rarely — almost never — someone says: “Myself.” The moment a person says that aloud, people around them feel uncomfortable. “That sounds selfish.” But here is a quiet truth about life: You have lived every second of your existence with only one permanent companion — you . Everyone else came later. Everyone else stays temporarily. Everyone else leaves eventually — through distance, misunderstanding, time, or death. Yet the person you neglect the most… is the only one guaranteed to remain till your last breath. This is not philosophy. This is survival. The Misunderstood Word: Self-Love Many people confuse self-love with arrogance. They imagine a person who ignores others, refuses sacrifice, and lives only for personal comfort. T...
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Books on manifestation, healing, neuroscience, mindset, fiction and practical self-growth. Click a book to view purchase options, sample chapters, or contact for signed copies.


Manifestation Mental Health Money & Career
The Manifestation Trap
The Truth: Burn the Vision Board
Quantum Manifestation
Passive Income Powerhouse
When the Cradle Shakes
My Gratitude Journal
Nineteen titles across manifestation, healing, neuroscience, money, productivity and stories. Most are available in both eBook and paperback.
The Manifestation Trap
Manifestation

The Manifestation Trap — Why Positive Thinking is Wrecking Your Life

A blunt, evidence-led guide to the dark side of surface-level “positivity”.

Exposes the pitfalls of feel-good affirmations and spiritual bypassing, and shows a grounded, nervous-system aware path to real change.

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The Truth: Burn the Vision Board
Manifestation

The Truth: Burn the Vision Board — The Psychology of Real Power

A science-forward critique of vision boards and wishful thinking.

Breaks down why traditional vision boards fail, and offers step-by-step, psychologically sound alternatives for building sustainable results.

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The Manifestation Masterpiece
Manifestation

The Manifestation Masterpiece — Own the Final Step: Align, Attract & Ascend

Completes the manifestation process with embodied integration.

Practical tools and rituals to embody your new identity so change sticks in real life, not just in your journal or meditations.

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Quantum Manifestation
Spirituality · Tools

Quantum Manifestation — How to Collapse Timelines, Bend Reality & Become the Version of You Who Already Has It

A hands-on blend of science, spirit and practical exercises.

Shows how to work with identity, focus and micro-actions in a “quantum-informed” way to intentionally create new life paths.

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The Akashic Blueprint
Spirituality

The Akashic Blueprint — Unlocking Infinite Memory & Conscious Creation

Working with deep memory fields as a creative tool.

Introduces accessible ways to think about “Akashic records” and use them for healing, creativity and conscious life design.

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Limiting Beliefs
Self-Realization

Limiting Beliefs — The Patterns That Bog You Down

Spot, challenge and reframe the stories that hold you back.

Short, focused exercises to identify hidden beliefs, dismantle them, and build new narratives around worth, success and safety.

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Communicate Better
Career · Relationships

Communicate Better — Master Your Communication Skills

Strategic, human communication for work and life.

Covers speaking, listening, feedback and non-verbal cues so you can influence without losing authenticity.

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Develop The Billionaire Mindset
Money · Business

Develop The Billionaire Mindset — Unlock Your Path to Financial Freedom

Mindset architecture and systems for wealth and freedom.

Looks at how high performers think, decide and structure their days, and translates that into realistic steps for your own finances.

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Passive Income Powerhouse 2025
Business · Passive Income

How to Build a Passive Income Powerhouse in 2025 — A Complete Guide

Budget-friendly strategies and a 30-day action plan.

A realistic playbook for building multiple income streams with clear timelines, tools and risk notes.

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When the Cradle Shakes
Health · Awareness

When the Cradle Shakes — A Guide to Postpartum Depression

Compassionate support for mothers and families.

Explains signs, risk factors and recovery paths for postpartum depression, blending research with real stories.

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Reticular Activating System
Neuroscience · Self-Help

Unlock Your Potential — Master the Reticular Activating System

Train your brain’s filter for opportunity and focus.

Shows how the RAS decides what you notice and act on, and gives daily practices for rewiring attention toward what matters.

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Mastering NLP
NLP · Self-Help

Mastering Neuro-Linguistic Programming — Transform Your Mind & Life

Hands-on NLP you can apply immediately.

Explains core NLP techniques with step-by-step instructions and real examples for behaviour change, communication and goals.

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Neuroplasticity
Neuroscience

Neuroplasticity — Unlock the Power of Rewiring Your Brain

Evidence-based tools to expand your brain’s flexibility.

Walks you through habits, practices and mindset shifts that literally change your brain’s wiring over time.

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The Healing Spectrum
Healing · Spirituality

The Healing Spectrum — Exploring Energy, Spirit & Self

A journey through energy work, Reiki and rituals.

Explores energetic, emotional and spiritual perspectives on healing, with practical exercises and reflections to support transformation.

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The Foul Smelling Man on a Train
Short Stories

The Foul Smelling Man on a Train — 26 Short Stories & Quotes

Compact, resonant narratives for reflective readers.

A collection of short stories and quotes meant to be dipped into on commutes or quiet evenings, each carrying a sharp insight.

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My Gratitude Journal
Journal · Wellness

My Gratitude Journal — Daily Prompts & Reflections

A simple, reliable ritual for everyday thankfulness.

Guided prompts for daily and weekly reflection, helping you build a durable gratitude habit and track your emotional growth over time.

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REFOCUS
Focus · Productivity

REFOCUS — The Lost Art of Coming Back

Micro-routines to reclaim your attention and momentum.

Offers reset methods and tiny, repeatable practices for getting back on track when your mind is scattered by distractions.

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CoE2 Summer Rains
Fiction · Short Stories

CoE2: A Cocktail of Emotions — SUMMER RAINS
A Collection of Short Stories and Verses (CoE: A Cocktail of Emotions Series)

A monsoon-soaked blend of stories, emotions, nostalgia and quiet revelations.

SUMMER RAINS brings together reflective short stories and poetic verses woven around longing, healing, loss, love and the small awakenings that reshape us. Each piece is a glimpse into the human heart caught in moments of change — soft, raw and deeply relatable.

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The Mind Heals
Healing · Mind

The Mind Heals: Harnessing the Science and Spirit of Imagination for True Healing

A bridge between neuroscience, imagination and emotional recovery.

A transformative guide that blends modern brain science with the timeless power of imagination to heal emotional wounds, shift inner narratives and rebuild resilience. Through stories, reflective practices and deep inner exercises, this book teaches how your imagination can become your most powerful healing tool.

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